Do Parents Truly Understand their Children....???

When they are born, she will be a doctor, he will be a football player, and many other titles will be bestowed upon them even before they are born. This raises the question of whether  parents truly understand their children. Parents have their own set of beliefs that they want their children to believe in! Parents fail to recognize that each child is unique, that each child is born with unique abilities, and that each child has his or her own hidden ability. It is essential to comprehend a child's desires.

Every youngster has unique emotional requirements. It is vital to recognize children's emotional needs in order to form lasting relationships with them. Parents actually do not grasp that their children have inborn qualities that must be identified at an early age and molded in a favorable way. Many Indian parents struggle to comprehend their children because they are more concerned with society than with their children's happiness. Everyone wants to have a good social standing, and for this reason, parents force their children to follow a vocation of their choosing rather than their children's. 

 Consider the little plants in our garden. To thrive, each plant requires a different amount of water or nutrition. Similarly, children require distinct nurturing. Children acquire their own set of values depending on their views as they grow. The world in which their children grow differs from the environment in which their parents grow. This generates a significant difference between the mental processes of parents and their offspring, which is referred to as the generation gap." The generation gap is defined as the difference in opinion between young and old people. Despite the fact that none of them are incorrect in their respective roles, there is still a disparity between the two generations.

   "All generations have similar values;

                          they just express them differently."

 Do parents truly understand that their children require different treatment than their peers? In addition to the pressures of a career, youngsters confront the difficulty of being judged by their peers. Although nurturing and cultivating potential can lead to a rewarding future, most Indian parents believe that a career in science and technology is the most promising. The fact is that new fields are emerging, and parents should consider these possibilities as well, as these subjects may be of interest to their child. Parents can inspire their children to pursue their aspirations from adolescence. Parents' motivation plays an important role to their children's success.

What can be best done so that parents truly understand their children??????

Improve Communication

Misconceptions can be avoided by effective communication. Communication should take place on both sides. The fact that youngsters are more comfortable expressing their feelings with others, such as friends, indicates a lack of communication between parent and child. Only expressing feelings to each other may not cure difficulties, but exchanging views and trusting in each other does. 

Be a listening ear 

Children frequently believe that their parents are unconcerned about little issues. Sometimes parents neglect small issues with their children, such as sibling rivalry. Parents should be unbiased and listen to both viewpoints. They should make sound conclusions on impartial ground and show both parties how they may have avoided the conflict. Parents would treat their children equally, but their youngsters frequently misunderstand this because they do not listen to both sides. 

Express Love 

 Any relationship requires a collective effort of sharing love and care from the two sides. When their children are down, parents must convey their affection by hugging them. Affection creates an emotional tie between the two. "We care" and "We love" may sound simple, yet they convey a powerful message to children.

Show respect 

We are a result of societal culture and impact. Moral ideals might range from one individual to the next. Everyone has their own set of values and ideas; what is ethical to one person may not be ethical to another. As a result, understanding each other's ethical perspectives is crucial. Respect can be demonstrated by maintaining a soft tone and making the words polite. Parents should avoid using phrases that may offend or breakdown their children.

NOTHING WORKS??? ..... Seek a Professional counselor

When  children begin to retaliate or quarrel with their parents,  parents often ask for the help of a counsellor. Professional intervention is always beneficial, but instead of bringing the children to specialists, parents should attend counselling sessions on how to preserve healthy relationships with their children. There are certainly parents whose parenting practises have been successful. Parents could also seek guidance from other parents who have been successful in helping their children understand.

Last but not the least-Empathize each other!

Coping with children's fluctuating emotional demands makes parenting the world's most challenging undertaking. While children are a gift from nature to their parents, parents usually make subtle efforts to nurture this priceless gift. Given this, the younger generation should empathise with their parents' situations. Knowledge is constantly overshadowed by experience. The younger generation should strive to understand why their parents are concerned. YES! It is the parents' concern that sometimes causes them to be strict, pushy, and possessive.

Understanding is the only way to develop healthy relationships...🤟